Dating for single mothers can be daunting. And, it’s tough looking for a date when you’re a single mother. Whatever the reason for you to be single, it’s a scary thought for many of them to get back into the relationship circuit. So besides all your friends nudging you to roar your way into the open, how exactly can you really tell if you’re ready to look for a date?
You Admit You’re Ready To Meet Someone
Many single mothers have bouts of denial when they feel the urge for emotional company. Denial, while masked with lines like, “The children are all that I need”, and “I don’t want the added trouble”, can be comforting at times, humans will always seek some form of connection with fellow human beings. This is a healthy step to letting go the fear of being hurt.
The Kids Are Okay With It
A single mother is single for a reason, and it will always have your children reacting to it. The first people—besides yourself—that you have to convince you are ready are your own children. Depending on past events leading to your single status, they will either be positive and open to the change, or resentful and rebel at the thought. This is your life, despite being intimately linked to your kids… respect their judgment, but also let them know you are big enough to decide for yourself.
The Past Isn’t So Scary Anymore
At some point in dating, your date will want to know why you’re still “playing the field”. This will lead to inhibition in the beginning, but if you actually admit that the past will come up in your conversations with likely partners (AND are willing to at least talk about it), then you are more than ready to hook up again. This is a decision many people are afraid to make for themselves, but friends, family, and even a bit of professional help can help you work it out.